We like to think it's the other person that makes the relationship challenging. You might think, “If only they were more like me this might go smoother” but that train of logic is steaming its way straight into the side of a mountain for a spectacular crash. If I were in relationship with someone exactly like me I don't think we would have lasted thirteen days, much less thirteen years, which is how long I've been married to someone who is mostly, and thankfully, nothing like me.
As it so happens, being in relationship, especially a long term one, is one of the greatest opportunities to discover the best of ourselves. Why? The idiosyncrasies of another become a flashlight, or in some cases a floodlight, that illuminate the shadowy corners of ourselves we would rather ignore and leave to gather dust and cobwebs of unawareness.
Keep Your Heart Open. Only through being vulnerable can we authentically connect and love fully.
I used to think we were from different planets when it came to being in relationship. It seemed like we just weren't speaking the same the same language. I know now it was less about the speaking and more about the way each of us was listening.